By Single Black Female

I enjoy sports. I wouldn’t label myself a fan but I can watch some basketball, baseball, even endure a little football, but my favorite sport is dating! Don’t agree dating is a sport? Dictionary.com defines dating as competitive athletic activity. Now depending on what type of date you go on, the athletic part is arguable but a competitive activity, dating most certainly is. All we do on a date is flash the best parts of our personalities just like athletes show their best skills at game time. We suit up, arrive at the playing field and game on! And some of you even keep score. Be it in panties or trinkets, everyone wants to be the high scorer.

I want a man who can not only make it to first base (the date) but also avoid the out at second (not f**k up within the first thirty days) steal third (turn me on more than physically-you know those emotions sneak up on you) then bring it on home (hopefully, great sex!). Unfortunately, I’ve met up with competitors flaunting unsportsman like qualities. These fools only want to dribble (distract you with trash talk while trying to sneak in a little “handle”) and slam dunk (you already know).  What happened to going hard in the paint and finishing strong?

Some of you need to stop acting like rookies! I mean we’re all adults here. I’m fed up with bringing my A game to a date (hair done, nails done, looking great, smelling good) and anticipating a worthy opponent only to be met with a bench warmer; dudes looking like they didn’t even bother to come out of their warm-ups, ready to just watch (and listen) to me all night. There’s no “I” in team, right? Where’s the contribution? Even worse is the ball hogger. Sure the date is sprinkled with highlights showcasing his wit, sense of humor and intellect but after two hours it’s still all about him and he didn’t bring home a win. Booooo.

It’s hard to be optimistic about a championship win for the team when everyone who steps up to bat strikes out. Dating, especially the first date, says a lot about a man. This is when he gets to display his charm, personality and style. I expect a potential beau to make good decisions, have taste and be able to impress. He should expect these things of himself, why step to the plate if you don’t want to swing?

I have had some experiences when it comes to dating; I’ve been in shady spots that I’m sure were on the brink of closure by the department of health, dined like a teenager AND even had a man apply lip gloss in my presence (no son that isn’t lip chap it’s, GLOSS!)…pause Granddad (*Riley voice*). I told you this was going to be a ride. Until next time,

Sincerely yours,

SBF

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