By G.I.N.A. (Game is Not Allowed)

As young women we were taught that when dealing with the opposite sex we should be coy and “hard to get” never pursue the man but allow him to “choose” us.  Going back as far as cavemen days women were depicted as helpless creatures.  Drawings showed us being clubbed over the head and dragged off into the wilderness by the dominant Neanderthal.   Fast forward thousands of years and despite our breakthroughs we are still expected to be sexually submissive.  When the tables turn and we want to kick in the (cave) door waving the two by four there is a problem. 

Recently I eaves dropped on an interesting debate between a few ladies and gents.  Apparently the guys felt it was trashy for a female to carry condoms while the women thought it was smart.  The men felt a woman with a condom is looking for sex; ready for it to happen at any moment.  Fellas, say it isn’t so. 

Why is it ok for men to be “prepared” but a woman’s preparedness signals a tramp?  Could it be, the supposed “stronger sex” is oblivious to the fact some women enjoy sex just as much (if not more than) they do? Newsflash, many women are very comfortable with their sexuality.  Of course we may act demure, thrill you with the chase, and allow you all to think you selected us.  The truth is (as we all know) women decide the who, what and when of our sex lives.   As responsible adults who know what we want, why isn’t being at the scene fully equipped commended?  Maybe we’d be accepted if we fumbled around in the heat of the moment searching for that little rubber sphere we know isn’t there (like a certain gender that shall remain nameless).  When it is time to get it on, it’s on!  We know that, you know that, so why play games which can lead to dangerous lapses in judgment?   

Seriously, how long did men think they would run the show, initiating “booty calls”, one night stands and “OPP” relationships?  Then, when an unwanted pregnancy or (gasp) STD arises, the woman bears the burden of the unfortunate consequences.  Men can be irresponsible. I’d bet money most of them search for any reason to go “bareback”.  However, when we take measures to ensure our lives aren’t turned upside down, suddenly we become sluts.  One would think a man should be happy that a woman has the presence of mind to avert a possible trip to family court or even worse, the clinic.    

Women have come a long way. We vote, make top dollar, run for high political and government office, and have no desire to turn back now.  Men need to catch up with us.  While I understand not all of you share the same sentiment, I have come across gentlemen who are stunned when a woman produces her own prophylactics.  The snide remarks such as “expecting a quickie on your way home” or “so I see you do this often” are laughable in our “sister circles”. In some instances YES, we may want to stop by your place and get a “tune up” on the way home and YES we may have sex often and only need for you to slip that “glove” on so the fun can begin.  However, admitting that to a man would be an instant mood kill.  To discover he is the receiver and not initiator of a BC (booty call) is like a slap in the face to many men.  Others find an aggressive woman a turn off.  Understand not all women are promiscuous, only conscientious.  Men get over it.  Accept our diligence. Let us do us so we can do you.  

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