By G.I.N.A. (Game Is Not Allowed)
As a single woman I’ll admit it’s hard to remain optimistic about finding that special someone. The dating scene can be very discouraging . Having multiple sex partners seems to be the norm and many people have no rules when it comes to sexual behavior and its boundaries in their relationships. Anything goes and monogamy is becoming an ancient practice.
Recently I listened as a popular radio personality did a segment on open relationships. Special guests were invited to speak positively on the topic, the host shared his personal story, and listeners called in to express their views. I was waiting for more people to call in appalled and irate, because surely the rapid rise in newly diagnosed cases of HIV, Aids and other STD’s is scaring people straight. However, the arguments against partner swapping were few, which is probably why the numbers of infected continue to climb. We’re in the midst of a revolution and it seems only the sexually liberal will survive.
Infidelity has long been a thorn in the side of many suckers for love, it’s nothing new. What is unfortunate is that (some) folks view this as a common (!!) and acceptable (?!) occurrence. Not only are both men and women willing to share their bed buddies, both genders are becoming more carefree and open about their sexual appetites. There are swingers (couples and singles who engage in swapping of sex partners) and polyamorists, (those who have more than one romantic relationship at a time) which are nothing more than fancy names for cheaters. While these groups will insist their actions are consensual amongst those involved, we know this isn’t always the case. As the popularity of these sexual cults rises, the institution of monogamy continues to vanish.
So what does this erotic free for all mean for the rest of us? Do we conform to society’s standards by lowering our own? Can monogamy survive in modern day Sodom and Gomorrah? I don’t know but what I am sure of is this is not what God intended for us. With the rise of sexually transmitted diseases, this can’t be what we want for ourselves.
Even our youth are being affected by this phenomenon. They are being inundated with music celebrating girlfriends having girlfriends and men more than happy being “boyfriend number two”. We are inviting young people into a convoluted world of questionable sex practices and distorted views on relationships.
I still believe in the basic fundamentals of relationships (an old soul trapped in modern times), the most important being monogamy. I often feel outnumbered on this topic, as I encounter more people willing to be involved in an affair than those who frown upon it. No matter what words are used to dress it up, a cheater is a cheater, and this is one matter I refuse to compromise on. Yes I know I’m probably considered a prude by today’s standards but I take pleasure in being the odd (wo)man out. For those (fleeting few) who agree maybe we’ll meet one day on the high road to sexual morality.
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